It’s almost ten years since I left school. Since leaving I spent a year volunteering in London, a year working in Liverpool, three years studying in Bournemouth, a further three years working in St Helens, and have now been living a a different part of London for a little over a year with my new husband.
As you can imagine the last ten years have been filled with a lot of change, I have met an awful lot of people. But sometimes amidst all this moving it has been hard to make real, good friends.
When I was fourteen my family moved from Sheffield to Essex, I was not happy about this. I had loved the three years I had spent in Sheffield, I had great friends at church and school and didn’t want to give them up. After moving friendships were much harder to come by. Things did eventually change, but I had a difficult couple of years.
When I arrivied at bible college it was easy to make friends, everyone was in the same situation, and we all shared the same set of values; we had the most important thing in our lives in common. I shared three years of my life with the most amazing group of girls.
Unfortunately after that friendships seem a lot harder work. It takes a long time to get to really know people at church when you are only seeing them once or twice a week. And it feels hard to make the effort when you know you wont be staying in the area for long.
However friendships are important. God created us to have relationships with others. And it is worth it, no matter how hard it feels.
I know I have often felt let down in firendships, like I’m putting in all the effort, the one that is awlays calling, or making arrangements to meet up. But it’s worth it Even if the friendships don’t last a lifetime.
I remember my Nana telling me that we have friends for a reason; friends for a season; and friends for life. Even if these friendships don’t last forever they are worth the effort.
I think of all the people I have counted friends throughout my life and the te way they have helped me grow my faith and encouraged me.
Even if I no longer speak to them I am thankful for them.
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up. (Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10)